Once the honeymoon period is over, her habits that you thought were quirky are now annoying. What you used to consider whimsical and cute behaviour are plain inconsiderate and frustrating. What went wrong with your relationship? When and how did it shift from the lovey-dovey phase to can’t-stand-being-in-the-same-room stage? Here are some warning signs to heed.
Have you been noticing the telltale signs? No more staring into each other’s eyes, and getting hot and heavy on the sofa. No more love notes and sweet desserts. No more “just because I love you” surprise gifts and holidays. Basically, the honeymoon period is dead. Instead, the road ahead seems like a drudge to travel on. You are at loggerheads with her most of the time. You argue about who does the laundry, who should top up the cash card and even who initiated the last lovemaking session!
“If discussing a problem starts an argument – good. Because arguing is crucial for a passionate relationship; it clears the air, raises adrenaline levels and is physically arousing.” University of Washington research confirms that getting angry during arguments results in more passionate relationships.
You’ve Stopped Thinking About Your Future
Remember the times you used to share your dreams, talk about travelling the world together or having that apartment near the East Coast beach? All that seems like a distant past now. In fact, you don’t even know what you’ll be doing next month during the holidays. You have stopped telling her what your short- and long-term dreams are, and are just too consumed with the now to even think about anything, let alone dream up a future together.