Do women care about how hairy their men are? Yes, to a certain extent. While largely a matter of personal preference, whether you decide to keep some fuzz on your face or some fuzz below your waist may affect how much loving you’ll receive tonight.
Unkempt, or excessive hair, may make you appear less attractive and even cause hygiene problems due to the heat and moisture in our climate. But you shouldn’t go and start shaving, or waxing, everything off. As Dr. Martha Lee, clinical sexologist at Eros Coaching and Men’s Health advisory board member, points out, “When a woman is in love, all the subtle differences between a man’s and woman’s bodies can actually appeal rather than disgust. Your body hair is what makes you a man. Acceptance of each other does not just include the idiosyncrasies, but also extends to each other’s bodies.”
The trick is to reach a compromise should your body or facial hair get in the way of your sexual pleasure. Having said that, some regular follicle maintenance may benefit you in the bedroom more than you realise. Here’s what Men’s Health found out from the ladies.
Stubble Can Be Sexy But…
The verdict on stubble is mixed. Girls dig the half rugged, just-rolled-out-of-bed look, to a point. “Fresh stubble is sexy,” says LeeAnn, 26, “but obvious 3-day-old stubble just looks like he doesn’t care.” Joann, 28, feels that a bit of stubble can be sexy, as “I like my boys rough around the edges,”she says.
Other women we spoke to felt that stubble can get uncomfortable, whether it’s for kissing or during oral sex. “My boyfriend’s facial hair grows really fast. One day after the shave and there’s already stubble. Personally, I don’t really like it because it gets really prickly,” laments Lisa, 30. Besides being prickly, stubbles can be ticklish and as Debbie, 25, points out, “I get ticklish easily, so if I end up laughing uncontrollably, how can we continue?”
While some women do not mind it, others may find it erotic and the extra friction can be a turn-on for some women, says Dr. Lee. “Slight pain is bearable, and pain and pleasure can go hand-in-hand actually eroticising the entire kissing or sexual experience.” Stella, 29, agrees. “Yes, it’s a turn-on for sure. Plus, it gives added stimulation, so why not? But, be gentle, please!”
Word of advice if you’re trying to rock a ‘tache; It’s more miss than hit. “Unless his moustache is a thin, stylish line that doesn’t scream caveman, I prefer my men clean-shaven,” says Debbie. Like the stubble, it’s a case of personal taste but the consensus is that a man with a moustache may come off as slightly vain (even if the truth is you’re just too lazy to shave). Says Lisa, “A clean, lasered face would be nice but then again, a bit of facial hair can look manly. As long as it’s not long and sparse like Lao Fu Zhi?”
Discovering The Road to Wembley
If you’re blessed with chest hair, don’t be afraid to show off a bit of that rug. She might sidle up next to you for a chat. “It exudes this manly charm. Very primal I think, but yeah, I think chest hair is sexy,” says Debbie. But only if doesn’t feel like I’m hugging an orang-utan, says Stella.”If it’s too little, then it’s not macho enough,”she says. Keep it neat with a specialised bodygrooming kit like this by Philips.
Head further south of your chest and she’ll be on the lookout for the ‘Road to Wembley’, the term given for that growth of hair from your belly button to your man garden. Never knew the females had a name for that, did you? To the women we spoke to, this patch of hair is quite a turn-on and “promises great things that are hidden from sight”, according to Stella. If you’re sporting this already, work on your obliques for a body combo that will have the ladies fall in lust at first sight. Follow this 8-pack Abs Workout to achieve that goal.
Make Your Penis Look Longer
In many cases, pubic hair can obscure a good bit of the penis, says Dr. Robert Birch, Ph.D., a psychologist specialising in marriage and sex therapy. If you want to make sure you expose the most of your measurement, keep your pubes well-trimmed. The less hair you have, the more pronounced your member will look. Also, it is no fun getting any loose pubic hair in the mouth during oral sex. Perhaps being shaven will encourage her to go down on you more often, and in a more enthusiastic manner.
Why Waxing May Not Be Your Thing
Waxing your privates is unnecessary unless your wife, or girlfriend, prefers it that way, although as Lisa says, “I’d be a bit surprised if it was completely waxed”. But it may cause you some discomfort. “The after-effects of waxing, where the pubic hair is growing out again, takes getting used to,” says Dr. Lee. “Waxing would definitely turn me off,”says Debbie, “It’s too pornstar-ish for me and I’d constantly wonder why are you so bothered with your appearance down there? Who else has access to it!?”
Plus, getting rid of all that hair may weaken your powers of attraction. Your odoriferous apocrine glands – located in your armpits and pubic region – are pheromone-producing powerhouses, Nick Neave, PhD, a psychologist at the UK’s Northumbria University. says. Your natural scent hitches a ride in your sweat and clings to body hair surrounding those areas. So take it easy on the manscaping.