Let’s be honest — sometimes, it can take a long time to find a woman’s clit. That said, knowledge is power, and being familiar with the female anatomy will only aid your cause. Unfortunately, this is all too rare: according to Cosmopolitan’s Female Orgasm Survey, 50% of women said their partners couldn’t quite help them achieve orgasm, and 38% of women also said their partners didn’t give them enough clitoral stimulation for them to be close to orgasm in the first place.
These numbers seem to suggest two things: 1) men can’t quite figure out where the clitoris is, and 2) they may not be trying to stimulate their partners’ clitorises at all.
“There have been multiple times I have been with a man, and, for the life of him, he can’t find my clit,” said Allison, 29. “It’s not this huge mystery where it is, but for some guys it seems like they are just lost in my vagina.”
So guys, just take a second and look! By looking first, you’ll be able to see the labia, the folds of skin around the vaginal opening, and, yes, the pea-sized bump directly above where the lips meet, a.k.a. the tip of the clitoris (the rest of it is actually inside!). While not every woman achieves orgasm from clitoral stimulation, many do (75 percent, according to one study), so getting to know your partner’s anatomy is crucial.