1. Hug her in the morning
Deploy your PDAs wisely for optimum impact. Women rate grasps highest as a way to express affection, Brigham Young University in the US found. And get them in early: A morning hug inoculates against stress, lowering your blood pressure for hours after you part.
2. Don’t fight on an empty stomach
If you plan to broach a tough subject on date night, do wait until after the bread basket has arrived. An Ohio State University study in the US found couples are less reasonable when their blood sugar is low. Make lunch, not war.
3. Get out of bed
Find a sitter for the kids/cat/your static housemate. The University of Montreal found 82 percent of women fantasise about sex in an unconventional location, making finding her hot spot crucial. Plus that adrenalin rush lingers as an aphrodisiac for weeks afterwards.
4. Ask her what she wants
Before you blow half a month’s salary on the Mulberry bag she yearns for, know that gratitude doesn’t increase with outlay. Instead, buying an “experience,” such as gig tickets, is proven to impress. Material surprises can be surprisingly poorly received.
5. Take twenty
This is how many minutes it takes for biological stress markers to stabilise after conflict. Set your mental timer and excuse yourself. Returning home with the caution of a bombdisposal expert is no longer required. Just a walk in the park, really.
6. Tune out money disputes
Throw some (Johnny) Cash at her while discussing your spending habits. Emotional music bumps up oxytocin, her “bonding hormone,” by 20 percent. A study in Psychological Science found this heightens trust between partners when making financial decisions, reducing the odds of dispute.
7. Scare her
No, not by leaping out from behind a door. Take her jetskiing or climbing. A shared sweatypalmed cortisol surge mimics the early stages of sexual attraction, making couples feel closer, according to Claremont Graduate University in the US.
8. Let her get some beauty sleep
Women are more affected by missed sleep than you, found the UK’s Sleep Council. One bad night makes them irritable for hours. A tyrosinerich diet can reduce the effect, so ensure salmon and eggs are on the breakfast menu. Also, time to hit the sack early tonight.
9. Talk dirty later
Unsure when to file a filthy request? Keep pre-coital chat clean and save X-rated ideas until after the act. A study in Communication Monographs found that orgasms increase openness, making a positive response considerably more likely.
10. Get Emojinal
Similar writing styles are a key predictor of longterm compatibility. Whether her wellpunctuated texts test your phone’s dictionary function or her e-mails are “omg enthusiastic!”, respond in kind for a better reply.
11. Just. Go. Away.
It’s true what they say about absence, though the benefits extend well beyond the heart. Couples who spend a night apart every month have twice as much sex as those who don’t. Girls’ weekend? Well, what’s good for women is equally good for men.
By: Scarlett Wrench; photo: Corbis