Guys tend to take breakups hard. We slice our suffering into long, dull, depressing chapters. We constantly obsess over what went wrong, spending hours investigating all the emotional forensics and telling ourselves the stories of our breakups over and over again. And we stalk our exes on social media for months, if not longer. We don’t recover from breakups. We simply grind on, according to Craig Eric Morris, Ph.D., a Penn State anthropologist who studies heartbreak.
What’s more, a breakup can trigger an actual mental health condition. It’s called abandonment rage, a term coined by Reid Meloy, Ph.D., a psychologist at UC San Diego. Now that your ex is gone, you’re devastated. And like a tornado survivor, you’re wondering what the hell just happened. While no two breakups are exactly alike, the best and healthiest ways to grieve and move on tend to follow similar patterns. Here are the 9 most effective ways to heal after a breakup.
By Men’s Health Editorial and Mario Abad