We all know that great foreplay can turn good sex into mind-blowing intercourse. So, although you’re someone who prefers to get down to business as soon as possible, that modus operandi may not work for her. Allowing her some time to soak and simmer before turning up the heat will reap you huge rewards, advises Dr Martha Lee, clinical sexologist and a Men’s Health advisory board member. Here’s how.
MAKE HER FANTASY A REALITY
“Being vocal with her may get her hot and steamy, as some women love mental stimulation,” says Dr Lee. Ask her about her fantasies and talk about the things that turn her on. “I told my boyfriend about my fantasy of making love to him in a fire engine,” says April, 31. “Now, whenever we see a fire engine, it’s like our private signal that we’re both thinking about sex.”
VARY YOUR KISSES
“You can express your desire for her with different types of kisses. Mix it up and keep it exciting,” says Dr Lee. Just remember that passionate kissing doesn’t always mean trying to push your tongue to new depth records down her throat. Consider varying your tongue play with the occasional gentle, closed-mouth kiss on her nose, eyes and forehead.
DON’T FORGET THE REST OF HER BODY
Your objective may be home base, but remember that sex is a full-body experience. And awakening the rest of her body is not only appreciated but also arousing for her, says Dr Lee. After kissing her lips, continue to kiss her behind her ears. Then move on to the nape of her neck, and tease the sides of her torso, just below her breasts, before you even think about going anywhere south.
EXPERIMENT WITH NEW MOVES
“We are creatures of habit. It might feel safe to do the same thing because it worked before. But doing it over and over again will only make her feel like you’re going through the motions,” says Dr Lee. Foreplay should not happen like clockwork. One can try introducing new gameplays, exploring new ideas and moves, and varying sexual positions. “All these will not only help keep each experience fresh, but help you learn just that bit more about her body and how she likes being pleasured. Don’t forget: Sometimes, less is more,” adds Dr Lee.
LET HER SEDUCE YOU
Allow her to seduce you, and showing you are barely able to hold yourself back will get the pulse racing. “Let her know when she has done something right by complimenting her. Then tell her why you like what she did. When she knows that she has been successful in seducing you, it helps build her confidence and allows her to feel more connected with you,” explains Dr Lee.