Flowers are versatile gifts for almost all occasions such as dates, anniversaries, birthdays or even apologies. But while you may think you’re being the perfect gentleman by showering her with bouquets and bouquets of blossoms, she may feel otherwise.
Lynn, 30, feels that while flowers will be appreciated by women, there’s a time and place for them. "I’m not into flowers on the first or second date, I think it’s quite cheesy," she says. "Flowers for a special occasion are good, but I don’t think they should be carried around to dinner or a movie. If you don’t have a car, send the flowers to her home or office." To save you from potential awkwardness and embarrassment, here are some pointers when it comes to giving her flowers.
Flowers On The First Date – Yes Or No?
Do women really enjoy flowers on the first date or is that all Hollywood hype? The answer might surprise you, as we learnt from surveying a group of women. Felyn, 29, says, "Flowers on the first date is perfect…if you are 16. I think I’ll crack up if a guy showed up with flowers on my first date." As Lynn mentioned earlier, "Any guy who gives flowers on the first date has no real imagination and is prone to cheesy behaviour. Who wants to go round carting flowers and feeling like it’s high school!
Instead, you can offer her a single stalk or just send her flowers the day after the date, suggests Marianne, 26. "He can bring a bouquet if he’s picking me up, and I can leave it at home," she says. Ronnie, 28, agrees. She says," A small flower is easy to hang on to, and it’s great if it can be pinned into the hair somewhere along the night. It’s a good memento, especially if it turns out to be a great first date."
Is There A Good Time To Send Flowers?
While flowers are welcomed as thoughtful gifts, the common message from the girls is to not overdo it. Deborah, 25, cautions, "Sending one out of the blue is nice, and maybe a couple more from time to time to show that you are thinking of her. But sending her flowers every month would just kill the whole damn mood!" Lynn agrees, "It’s okay to send them once in a while but too often and it seems like a waste of money!" Plus, it can get boring, says Marianne.
It’s not just about flowers, shares Felyn. "It’s the surprise factor and choosing something you know she’d like," she says. It could be the latest Stephanie Meyer novel, her favourite Royce chocolates or the Take That reunion album. It would be great if you give the girl flowers on a day that is not special, Deborah suggests. "That will certainly perk her up and it’s a major sweet gesture on the guy’s part too for making the effort!"
What’s Good, Besides Roses?
You will never go wrong with roses but to show a bit of creativity, try sending her other types of flowers. The ladies we spoke to suggested a whole variety of choices such as tulips, lilies, gerber daisies, daffodils, peonies, sunflowers and more. Ronnie suggests a simple rule of thumb, "Just pick something beautiful that you think will make her happy."