You’re wearing a crisp, new dress shirt, you’ve styled your hair just right, and you polished up your lucky loafers to boost your odds of landing a lady tonight. But despite putting in all the prep work, your appearance might not leave as strong of an impression on her as another important trait.
“The first thing a woman notices about a guy is his confidence,” says Violet Lim, author of Lessons From 15,000 First Dates and co-founder of dating company Lunch Actually that recently launch its own dating app LunchClick.
In fact, according to the surveys she has conducted, this hasn’t changed at all over the years. “It’s about how well you carry yourself that makes you attractive,” Violet explains. Nothing to do with your outfit, or the muscles underneath. (Although both certainly help.)
Not convinced? Consider this tip from self-styled pickup artist Ethan Lee of Gentlemens-Secrets.asia about confidence: “When approaching women, it’s not about the magic words, but your delivery, tone, eye contact and body language. You can say anything, even a cheesy pickup line, but it’s the way you put it across that makes it work.”
Now that you know the crucial secret to attracting women, find out how to Flirt With Her The Right Way (there’s a fine line between being confident and being cocky, and you definitely don’t want to be the latter). Or, speaking of confidence, perhaps check out How To Date Your Boss.