Dating isn’t easy. Finding someone who will appreciate your quirks and you can really click with is no easy feat. Especially on Tinder and other dating apps, where all they can tell from your profile is how you look and a few sentences about you. While that doesn’t tell them anything, your profile pictures are the first impression you make on them. So, you need a way to stand out from the crowd. The way is simple: pick a good photo. Everyone knows how to take a good photo with their iPhones, but not everyone knows about the mistakes that decrease your chances of getting a match.
Fortunately, we asked dating experts for advice on dating apps, specifically the biggest mistakes guys are making on dating apps when it comes to choosing their photos — and what they should be doing instead.
Don’t use a photo of yourself at the gym
Women want to see a variety of pictures, so you should be using them to reflect various aspects of your life/personality. Photos of you being active are great, but too much of one photo suggests that that’s all you do — and while you might be ripped as hell and proud of it, we want to be with a guy who can offer much more than that.
Don’t use a photo of you drinking and partying
“What we’ve noticed is that girls are more inclined to take pictures,” says Melissa Hobley, CMO for OkCupid. “Guys are less included to do so, so when guys find pictures of themselves the only ones they have are from Facebook or Instagram where they are out. If you want to not look like a party boy, you have to take pictures of yourself not partying.”
Don’t use selfies
“Don’t post any shirtless photos, and avoid creepy bathroom selfies,” says Erika Gershowitz, a professional matchmaker at Three Day Rule in New York City. “Actually, nix selfies altogether. You want to have pictures of you smiling and doing things you love. Travelling, being around friends and family – this is what will attract the right women to your profile.”
Don’t use group photos
You know how frustrated you get when you see a woman’s profile and she posts a bunch of sorority pics and you can’t tell which one is her? Women feel the exact same way when you post a group photo, so just don’t do it.
So what photos do work? Ones that convey your passions, whether that’s your latest Spartan Race, skiing, that glass of wine you drank in Spain, that car you raced, or that time you and your friends spent the day at the beach. (Got pets? According to OkCupid research, photos of guys with dogs get a ton of attention, says Hobley.) Use the photos to tell a story about who you are. Get creative. And if you’re really unsure about whether or not your photos are up to snuff, ask a female friend to take a look.