The way to a woman’s bedroom is through her ears. That’s because for me and most women I know, chatting about relationships is as much fun as having them. It starts during kindergarten (“Want to be my boyfriend?”) and continues through adolescence (“Do you like him, or do you like him like him?”) and adulthood (“Call me after your date, to recap”).
To have a rich, full, naked relationship with one of us, you have to participate in this sort of chatter. And that can be a problem. “She’s doing something she’s done throughout her life and feels good at,” says Deborah Tannen, Ph.D., whose book You Just Don’t Understand unlocks the mysteries of male-female communication. “He hasn’t done much of it, doesn’t particularly enjoy it, and feels it’s not his game.” So you try your best—asking good questions, giving solid answers, and making her laugh. But there are a few difficult conversations that men, try as they might, tend to screw up.
That’s about to change. Here is your guide to the six trickiest relationship talks. “Each of these, if handled correctly, is a ticket to the next level of intimacy with a woman,” promises Les Parrott, Ph.D., the author of Love Talk. In other words, say the right thing and your relationship will be richer, fuller, and more naked than ever. And that’s worth talking about.