Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most common male sexual dysfunction. According to estimates, somewhere between 20 per cent and 30 per cent of men experience it, with many doing almost anything to last longer in bed. If you spend the whole time during sex thinking about not ejaculating, that’s a problem and that’s not what sex is supposed to be. Here are some techniques that are commonly used but they don’t all work.
Sex is part body, part brain. So in the heat of passion, some men think about sports stats; others think about roadkill. “It works because you’re less sexually present,” psychologist Barry W McCarthy says. But beware: If you picture something morbid, you’ll train yourself to think that way during sex – and that in itself can lead to erection problems, the co-author of Men’s Sexual Health says.
STOP AND SQUEEZE
In a Men’s Health US survey, 98 per cent of women said they’d be happy to help train their partner to last longer. So ask your honey to lend a hand: Relax your pelvic muscles as she manually stimulates you. When you’re about to reach the point of no return, ask her to stop and, if necessary, squeeze the head of your penis. Rest until the urge passes, and then resume.
It’s the most obvious move: Go it alone first and you’ll last longer in round two. But there’s a downside, says McCarthy: Second orgasms are less intense.
Drink too much and you won’t be able to get it up. But some alcohol before sex may depress your central nervous system and delay ejaculation. Don’t rely on it, though: You could become sexually dependent on alcohol, and then develop erectile dysfunction while sober, McCarthy says.