We can argue all day about the pros and cons of working out alone, but you can’t deny that having a workout partner to push you on those really difficult sets can make a whole world of difference. In fact, psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert says, “working out as a couple provides an opportunity to bond over a common goal, which is getting and staying in shape. To that end, couples can serve as a source of support and motivation to each other.” Of course, this can also apply to gym buddies and lifting partners, not just couples.
Unfortunately, one man has recently discovered that he is incompatible with his workout partner in the worst way possible: through a text. Right before Valentine’s Day. Ouch.
my boyfriend’s gym “bro dude” broke up with him 💀💀💀 pic.twitter.com/mk3yiOtCqv
— S K Y L E R ✨ (@arielle_skyler) February 8, 2019
The text reads like your standard breakup message (it’s not you, it’s me), and even tries to let him down easy by saying they can still workout, just for different body parts (we can still hangout as friends!).
“Hey bro, I’m gonna start going alone, I don’t get the same pumps with some of your workouts like I do alone, I was talking to the big black dude and it has a lot to do with the fact that we have different body types”
“And I’m just talking about chest and back workouts… arms legs and abs are always f***ing amazing with you.”
Benefits of working out alone
As painful as it is, this guy will have to move on and accept that some things just aren’t meant to be. Thankfully, it’s not all bad. Working out solo can be just as good for you if you know what you’re doing.
Not only can you workout on your own time, you don’t have to worry about your gym partner “not feeling it” on that day. “If you commit to running at 6am with a friend and they flake out, are you going to be motivated to get out of bed and go?” asks personal trainer Meghan Kennihan. Chances are, you may not feel the same level of motivation if they ditched you.
Plus, it can be a great way to get in touch with yourself without distractions.
“There can be a meditative quality to working out alone, which research shows can markedly improve mood both during- and post-workout,” says Dr. Erin Reynolds, a sports neuropsychologist and the director of Baylor Scott & White Sports Concussion Center in Frisco, Texas. “You can use the time to completely unplug from your daily life.”
Workouts You Can Do With A Partner
If you’re luckier than this guy and still have a good, working workout relationship with a gym partner, there’s tons of exercises you can do together too. Here are some you can try!
Including your wife or girlfriend in your next workout session is a great way to bond together.
“When working out with a partner, be encouraging and supportive. Know when to push your partner and when to take a break. A good team will communicate and have their goals aligned,” trainer Astrid Swan says.
The Row to Hell, a workout from trainer Bobby Maximus, author of The Maximus Body, will fire up your heart rate, get your blood pumping, and melt your body fat. You’ll only need two things: a rower and another human, preferably a willing friend.
You can build up an impressive physique working out by yourself, but some moves are much better with a partner. One of the best examples of this is any type of throw, which can help to hone body control and power. Try it now!
By Gilbert Wong, Men’s Health Content Producer