Think of a first date like a job interview. You’re applying for a vacant position and certainly, you’d want to impress the interviewer and show that you’re the right man for the job. Would you then turn up for the meeting looking like you’re heading for a cup of teh tarik at the local kopi tiam? You need to wow them, and have them at "Hello".
Anisa Hassan, managing director of It’s Just Lunch Asia, says, "Whether you’re in a social or professional setting, leaving a good first impression could go a long way in helping you open many doors of opportunities." Whether those opportunities are an office promotion or an invitation back to her place, these are her tips to help you leave an indelible mark on anybody’s mind.
"Active listening is an art in itself. Too often we are uncomfortable with pregnant pauses or awkward silences because we’re busy filling the gaps in the conversation," observes Anisa. "This presents a danger as we could potentially say the wrong thing at the wrong time, unwittingly. Taking a moment to pause and consider what the other party is talking about bears more weight than being light, smarmy and superficial in our responses." By becoming a better listener, the other party may even find you a better conversationalist, she says.