07:00 Skip Breakfast
Breakfast in bed on a weekday is not always good. “Men make the mistake of trying to woo with breakfast in bed, when all she can think about is catching the train on time,” says Yvonne Fulbright, author of Touch Me There: A Hands-on Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots. Instead, the best thing you can do in the mornings is to stay out of her way so she doesn’t feel hurried. Or make her a cup of coffee – it’s not intrusive on her routine, but shows you care.
08:00 Leave Her Yearning
Lay the foundation of tonight’s, er, lay with a goodbye kiss. “Get it right and she’ll be hungering for more all day,” says Pam Spurr, author of Sensational Sex. “The stronger and more passionate the kiss, the deeper it will be embedded in her memory and the more she’ll recall it throughout the day.” And where you place your hands during the kiss is key – run them over her bum and hips and she’ll be yearning for more tonight.
13:00 Ring Her Bell
Now is the perfect time to call or e-mail to get yourself back on her sexual radar. “People are more receptive right before lunch because their minds aren’t cluttered with what they have to do next,” says James Sniechowski, author of The New Intimacy. Women respond better to internal triggers such as thoughts or memories,” says sex therapist Gloria G. Brame. “Make reference to your past sexual exploits together to build her anticipation for later.”
18:00 Listen Dirty
According to researchers in the Netherlands, stress is one of the biggest libido killers for women. Neuroscientists at the University of Groningen studied women’s brains as they orgasmed and discovered letting go of stress may be necessary for women to climax. Helping her unwind by listening to her work worries without jumping in with solutions is a very powerful aphrodisiac for women.
20:00 Rub Her Right
Candle-lit baths are nice but she might fall asleep from all that relaxation. So stimulate her with a head massage instead. University of Miami School of Medicine research shows that the precious oxytocin which stimulates her bonding urges will begin to surge. That’s bonding – put the cuffs away. Sit her in front of you and place your hands on her neck,” says holistic therapist Lynne Hancher. “Next, use your knuckles to gently friction rub her entire scalp. Now place your hands on either side of her head, and press in your fingertips, release, move 1cm up and repeat.”
22:00 Early To Bed
For the final push, hit the bedroom. Alone. “Women still do most of the housework, but get in there first and she’ll adore you for it,” says sex therapist Ian Kerner. Appeal to her senses by making the bed with classy Egyptian cotton sheets and investing in scented candles. Stop sniggering. “The cotton will feel great against bare skin,” says Spurr. “And one of the biggest barriers to women relaxing during sex is body image, so the soft light will make her much less inhibited.” The Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago also found that the scents of liquorice and lavender increased blood flow to the vagina.