If your relationship is starting to stagnate, reignite the spark in your romance by keeping things fresh. For example, find out what she wants to do during the weekend and go with that instead of dragging her to yet another Premier League screening.
Or, you can also try any of these ideas to heat things up at home.
1. Challenge her to strip Kinect
“Competing with your partner in a playful environment can help you work out some aggressions,” says Jennifer Worick, co-author of The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex. “Strip video gaming is fun and sexy. Every time a character is killed, you must remove a piece of clothing.” If blood and gore isn’t her thing, try Dance Central 2 on the Xbox Kinect. She’ll have fun shaking her bon-bons and hopefully that adrenaline rush will translate into more booty-shaking afterwards.
2. Do whatever she wants to do—and like it!
The happiest couples are those who can find enjoyment in sacrifice, according to a study in the Journal of Marriage and Family that tracked 73 couples over 13 years. “Taking pleasure in your partner’s happiness enhances mutual satisfaction,” says Howard Markman, Ph.D., a psychologist at the University of Denver. “Find out what your partner really wants to do (even shopping for curtains), make it happen, and enjoy it. It’ll save you thousands in therapy.”
3. Pour peppermint schnapps in her belly button. Sip it. Then kiss her breasts and blow on the spots you kissed.
The peppermint schnapps and air will cause a cool sensation and heighten arousal, says Ava Cadell, Ph. D., a Los Angeles sex therapist. And do some shopping at adult-toy online sites, and at the grocery store. There’s a whole world of flavours and textures out there to play with. Once you get past the headlong plunge to sex, you’ll ask yourself what the hurry was, anyway. Delayed pleasures remain the most gratifying ones, especially where her body is concerned.
4. Get busy in the kitchen together but don’t be too concerned about how lunch turns out.
It’s all about the journey, not the result. “It’s an opportunity to create something special as a couple,” says celebrity chef and restaurateur Bobby Flay. “So the creme brulee doesn’t set. Who cares? It’s just the two of you.”