More Sex: 8 Ways To Boost Your Sex Life In 2017

  • 1. Send Her Something Sexy
    1 / 8 1. Send Her Something Sexy

    It’s simple science: Women take longer to become aroused. So if you’re looking to get lucky later in the evening, start by piquing her interest early.

    How? Sext her. (No, seriously.) “Sexting can be extremely hot for a woman,” says Dr. Ava Cadell, founder of Loveology University.

    Related: 12 Hot Tips To Drive Her Wild

    Women are much more auditory than men, she explains. So reading something sexy—like how badly you crave her taste—will only plant the seed of anticipation in her head. 

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  • 2. Speak Up
    2 / 8 2. Speak Up

    No one wants to have sex with someone who’s completely silent the entire time, so make yourself heard.

    “Most women find dirty talk extremely sexy,” says Gloria Brame, Ph.D., a sex therapist and the author of Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. So whether it’s grunts, moans, or just whispering in her ear, any sort of verbal reaction will help her get riled up, says Brame.

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  • 3. Slow It Down A Notch
    3 / 8 3. Slow It Down A Notch

    Arousal doesn’t start the minute you enter the bedroom. And simply getting naked doesn’t mean she’s ready to go, says Brame.

    Related: 145 Things To Never, Ever Say To A Naked Woman

    To up her heat index, Brame recommends taking your time when stripping down. Unbutton her clothes and remove them slowly. Kiss her bare skin and spend extra time in the area you just disrobed. “Women need to be able to relax and get into a good mindset,” says Brame.

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  • 4. Think Out Of The Box
    4 / 8 4. Think Out Of The Box

    Kissing her neck is always a wise move, but switching things up will only work in your favor.

    Your move: Focus on something more foreign, like her hands. “Start by kissing her fingertips and then slowly spread her fingers apart, licking in between each one,” says Cadell.

    “Women like to be teased, so this sultry symbolism (licking in between her fingers versus her legs) will rev up her sex drive.”

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  • 5. She Comes First
    5 / 8 5. She Comes First

    Women are more open to sex if they know their needs are going to be met, says Cadell.

    So rather than issuing your own sexual demands, focus on her satisfaction instead. Hone in on the areas that especially put her in the mood: Her ears, neck, and inner thighs are all surprising hot spots that can push her over the edge.

    Related: 10 Erogenous Zones She Wants You To Touch

    And since women like spontaneity, never stay in one area for too long, says Cadell.

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  • 6. Compliment Her Body
    6 / 8 6. Compliment Her Body

    If you want oral sex to play a bigger role in your sexcapades, make sure she knows how crazy you are about her body.

    Research has shown that women who are more comfortable with their genitals are not only more open to receiving oral sex, but they enjoy it more and orgasm more, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., sex researcher at Indiana University and author of Sex Made Easy.

    The next time you spend some time below the belt, tell her how much you love the way she looks, tastes, and smells, Herbenick advises. Your words will benefit the both of you in the long run.

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  • 7. Trial And Error
    7 / 8 7. Trial And Error

    Don’t put her on the spot by asking her what she wants mid-romp, says Brame.

    Yes, communication is key for good sex. But expecting her to give you a step-by-step walk-through on how to pleasure her isn’t exactly getting her off. It puts pressure on her because she thinks she has to respond with something new and kinky, when she should just be enjoying the moment, says Brame.

    Related: 4 Forbidden Places To Touch During Sex

    “Women like men who are in control,” says Cadell. So instead of asking, “what do you want me to do to you?” try experimenting on your own, and then asking her if it feels good.

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  • 8. Cook For More Sex
    8 / 8 8. Cook For More Sex

    Keep in mind that heavy meals do not pair well with sex. “When your body is full of food, your first instinct is to just lay around and digest,” says Brame.

    Plus, if a woman is full, the last thing she’s going to want to do is strip off her clothes, she explains. So if you’re planning to wine and dine her, make sure to keep the meal light and sexy.

    And here’s a fun fact: Black licorice has been shown to speed up her genital bloodflow by 40 percent, Cadell says. So try incorporating it and other aphrodisiacs—including wine and chocolates—into your pre-sex routine. 

    By Madeline Haller

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