The latest Hollywood gossip is that newly-single Selena Gomez is giving her ex, Justin Bieber, another chance. While Gomez’s friends are reportedly worried about the pop star getting back together with Bieber, we’ve got to hand it to the guy. Winning back your ex—especially when you’ve allegedly been unfaithful—is no easy task, as any person who’s been in a similar situation can attest.
Some relationships clearly aren’t meant to stand the test of time, but there are other instances where it’s not so black and white. As relationship Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., told Men’s Health, it comes down to figuring out how and why a break-up happened, and then deciding where to go from there. Below are the steps you can take to figure out if getting back with your ex is worth it—and from there, how go about executing this seemingly daunting task. Biebz, listen up.