Wish you had the courage to talk to that impossibly pretty girl on the train/in the lift/at the bus stop? No matter where you’re running into these gorgeous women, we have a plan for you.
The Starbucks Barista
First move Set yourself apart from the rabble. “Ask for a recommendation,” says Josh Estrin, author of Shut Up! And Listen to Yourself. “Say, ‘You’ve been serving me the same kind of coffee for months. Surprise me this time.’”
Follow-up Now that she knows you value her opinion, widen the range of topics. In a self-deprecating manner, tell the Dockers associate you need a smart, discerning woman’s input on an outfit. Or ask the barista if she picks the music and what kind she prefers. This elevates the relationship. Once the talk is flowing and she knows more about you, she’ll be comfortable meeting after her workday.
The Office Cutie
First move Go with what you have in common, but give it a twist. Ask her how long she’s been working there and what she likes and dislikes, then this: “What do you do when you’re not here?” Your position in all this: You’re connecting with her
professionally, and intrigued by her personally.
Follow-up Tap into her ambition and make her a co-instigator for an after-work drink by telling her that the purpose is to build alliances. The result: The two of you suddenly become co-conspirators in the ladder climb. Next up, the co-ed netball team or a charity drive. Bonding, bonding, and more bonding.
The Fellow Commuter
First move She rides the MRT (or bus, or escalator, or lift) with you, but so do hundreds of nine-to-fivers. Put yourself in her way – sit (or stand) next to her occasionally. Then use your props to kindle a dialogue. Improvise from the newspaper or comment wryly on your rat-on-a-treadmill existence.
Follow-up Small courtesies can turn into small intimacies. Offer her your seat or the style section of the paper. As your camaraderie builds, it’s an easy move to convert the morning commute into an evening meeting for drinks.
The Gym Goddess
First move You need to move past her sweaty-guy- on-the-make suspicions. One of the best ways to do that: Be the idiot new guy in a gym class. Join yoga and struggle a bit. This puts the object of your attention in a superior position, and she may offer up some advice.
Follow-up If you’ve connected through a class, ask her if she’d like to join you and a few friends on a short, Saturday morning run. Sell it as a good workout and the perfect way to justify the roti pratas and teh tarik at a cute cafe along the route.