SEX & WOMEN

Affairs: 4 Women Reveal How It Affected Their Relationship

  • We Went To Lots Of Therapy
    1 / 4 We Went To Lots Of Therapy

    “I found out my husband cheated when I picked up his cell phone to search for a photo we had taken together and found instead a very revealing photo of another woman. He immediately confessed that he had been having an affair with her for a year.

    Related: When Should You Tell Your Partner You Cheated?

    I was completely devastated, but the first thing I wanted to do was see a professional who could help us fix this. We went to couple’s therapy together once a week.

    He stopped seeing the other woman and we slowly rebuilt our trust. I guess I decided to stay with him because when I caught him, he just stopped. He stopped the lies, told the truth, and then worked with me to make things better.” —Shelly S., 37 

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  • We Took A Break
    2 / 4 We Took A Break

    “I was the one who had strayed from the marriage, when I hooked up with a guy from work. It was just a few times, but I felt so bad about it that I told my husband everything.

    I confessed everything in the hopes that we could start over. He was so upset and immediately moved out, thinking we would separate. We spent three months apart and in that time I tried to work on myself, examining why I cheated and what confidence issues I was suffering with.

    With these new conclusions, I begged for him to come back and eventually he did.” —Judy G., 33

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  • We Moved On Together
    3 / 4 We Moved On Together

    “I cheated, then he cheated, and once we were both guilty, we decided to put that behind us.

    We’ve been married for 15 years, and affairs happen. It doesn’t mean it’s the end of a relationship, but it often means something is broken.

    Related: ‘Informational Infidelity’ And Other Ways You May Be Cheating Carelessly

    We decided to get therapy and move on together. It’s been six years since either one of us have cheated and our relationship is stronger than ever.” —Victoria P., 38

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  • We're Still Working On It
    4 / 4 We're Still Working On It

    “Everyone says that when you’re cheated on you should pack up your stuff and go, but it’s not that easy. My husband of only six months cheated on me right after our wedding, like the week after.

    I found out when I noticed some girl wouldn’t stop commenting on his Instagram. Eventually she came forward and told me the guy I just married has been dating her for months. It was such a big hit in the heart. I was so embarrassed, because I just had this big wedding and now I wanted to leave.

    Honestly, I still do, but I’m scared of being alone and starting over. My husband knows that I know and he’s trying to convince me he’s stopped and will never cheat again, but I seriously don’t believe him and hope one day I wake up with the courage to go.” —Dani S., 26

    By Jen Glantz for Women’s Health

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