Taste The Forbidden Fruit
Nine women that you want even though you know you really shouldn't. Which just makes you want them even more.
1. A Friend’s Ex
Why you want her: Your buddy has extolled her virtues so relentlessly, she’s become the woman of your dreams, too. “He’s basically given you a sales pitch for his girlfriend,” says Amy Bippus,Ph.D., a professor of communication studies at California State University at Long Beach.
What to consider: If the separation wasn’t mutual, beware.“There’s no bigger blow to a man’s self-esteem than to be rejected in favour of a friend,” says Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Dating.
What to do: If you must act, stay away until he has moved on to another love interest. “There’s a psychological threshold that’s crossed when a person takes up a new relationship,” says Kerner. “Plus, you don’t want to look like a scavenger.”
2. A Friend’s Sibling
Why you want her: She has your best friend’s personality and Fiona Xie’s curves, and she already knows your name. “You’ve crossed the toughest boundary in dating,” says Logan Levkoff, a sex columnist.
What to consider: If the relationship sours, don’t expect your friend to back you up. “Chances are, he’ll protect his sister,” says Levkoff. You’ll also lose a sounding board for relationship troubles.
What to do: Say this: “How would you feel if I said I was interested in your sister?” not “Dude, Susan is smoking hot. Can I date her?” “Ultimately, you want to give your buddy a chance to express himself, not deliver a thumbs-up or thumbs-down vote,” says Kuriansky.
3. A Close Friend
Why you want her: “She has the potential to be everything you need: the friend, the playmate, and the lover,” says Levkoff.
What to consider: If you’ve been a confidant for her most lurid dating stories, chances are she’s not open to an upgrade. But if, after hanging out, she starts referring to the two of you as “us,” you’re in.
What to do: Choose your words wisely. “I’ve always loved you” could cheapen the friendship. “Women often feel betrayed if they find out you’ve been sexually interested all along,” says Kerner. “Tell her she’s great and ratchet up the intimacy a bit. It’s better to let it happen naturally than to deliver a stump speech.”
4. Your Sexy Colleague
Why you want her:“The workplace is a trove of attractive, like-minded people our own age who dress nicely,” says Bippus. “It’s deep intimacy with rigid barriers,” adds Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why We Love. “That’s a recipe for romantic love.”
What to consider: Nothing kills a meeting – and your reputation– faster than puppy-dog eyes across a conference table. “Couples always think other people don’t know, but they always do,” says Marie McIntyre, Ph.D., author of Secrets to Winning at Office Politics. The obvious pitfall: You split and loathe each other, all under the eyes ofthe office gossips.
What to do: You can have an office romance, as long as you keep the office and the romance separate. “You need to prove to your boss that your relationship status won’t change the work environment,” says McIntyre. A reassuring heads-up to your supervisor once you’re exclusive could help reinforce your professional image. If a breakup comes, go ahead and have the screaming fight, but then settle how you’ll deal in the office. Your jobs depend on it.
5. Your Nubile Intern
Why you want her: She’s young, hot, well dressed, helpful, and somehow convinced that you’re a lot better at your job than you actually are.
What to consider: Learn from Lewinsky: Nothing grabs attention – at the watercooler or the newsstand – like intern gossip. And watch out for sexual harrassment accusations.
What to do: Hold your horses. Even if she’s interested. Even if you bump into her outside of work. Even if she’s the one slurring come-ons at happy hour. “As soon as she’s packed up her cubicle, you’ve got the green light,” says McIntyre. Until then, let the tension build to a passion packed payoff.
Next > Four other women you might not want to mess with (including your – gasp – boss!)
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