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In romance, timing is everything. “You want to meet her needs without her having to ask,” says Ava Cadell, PhD. Here’s your quick guide.
THE RIGHT TIME FOR THAT FIRST KISS:WHEN SHE’S IN POSITION
The key is not to catch her unprepared. “It’s a negotiation, usually based on nonverbal cues, to show that a person’s available and to see if the other person is interested,” says anthropologist David Givens, PhD, author of Love Signals. Watch her lips – clamped means rejection. The mouth is “the gatekeeper of the body” and surrounded by nerve endings, says Rutgers University anthropology professor Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why We Love. If they want to, “women tend to get into a position to let themselves be kissed.”
THE RIGHT TIME TO SCORE: BEFORE BRUNCH
“Mornings are often when she’s happy and relaxed,” says Fisher. Compared to a night out at a pub (when most men would naturally try such a move), “most women haven’t had anything to drink, and their bodies are more fully awake,” she adds. Want a selfish reason? Mornings are when you’ll be surfing on your highest daily testosterone surge, which means those erection causing chemicals are more active.
THE RIGHT TIME TO APOLOGISE: A DAY LATER
If you’ve upset her in any way, listen to her vent. Then take a day to let things cool off before offering your full apology. “The other person needs to know that you’ve spent a little time thinking about what you’ve done and why,” says Beverly Engel, a marriage and family therapist, and the author of The Power of Apology.
THE RIGHT TIME TO BREAK UP: A DAY BEFORE YOUR – OR HER – BUSINESS TRIP
“Breaking up produces total chaos in the brain,” says Fisher. A forced separation makes the cleanest break. You can minimise the emotional upheaval by leaving when her job and social life are going well. “When she’s embedded in her social network, it will support her through a tough time,” Fisher says. You should still aim to maintain calm during the process, however. “Keep your emotions in check and try to avoid saying things you will regret later,” adds clinical sexologist Martha Lee.
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In romance, timing is everything. “You want to meet her needs without her having to ask,” says Ava Cadell, PhD. Here’s your quick guide.
