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How Hot Will Your Date Be In Bed?

Sometimes meek women turn wild in bed; sometimes they just lie there like a cold fish. And that wild-looking hottie may actually turn out to be a pussycat beneath the sheets According to love scientists, it is possible to reliably predict what a woman will be like in bed. (Sort of.) 

"It’s very hard to gauge,” explains Helen Fisher, PhD, an anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of Why We Love, a book about the nature and chemistry of romantic love. A woman’s high heels, short skirt and follow-me walk mean little. “Those are signs of intention,” she says. “But they are not signs that this person is actually good in bed and compatible with you.” Here's the checklist to see if your date will be a sex bomb, or just a bomb.

SHE LOVES ICE CREAM

You may find the perfect lover by comparing tastes in ice cream, according to Dr Alan Hirsch, a neurologist and director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago. Researchers call this “ice cream hedonics”. Dr Hirsch conducted study of 720 people aged 24 to 59, in which he correlated personality tests, their favourite ice cream flavours, their partners’ favourite ice creams and relationship status.

Coffee ice cream lovers – found to be dramatic, seductive and flirtatious – are most romantically compatible with strawberry fans. Vanilla gals (emotionally expressive and fond of public displays of affection) melt best with rocky road guys. And mint chocolate chip fans are meant for each other.

SHE SUGGESTS LAKSA FOR DINNER

Beware the “I-don’t-know, what-do-you- want-to-do?” camp of passive babes. A woman who knows and says what she wants, even when answering a mundane question, is more likely to be in control during sex. Good lovers maintain ownership of their satisfaction – they remove a lot of the guesswork. “Such a person is more likely to be assertive in bed and take responsibility for her own pleasure,” says clinical sexologist and Men’s Health Advisory Board member Dr Martha Lee.

“Human tastes in bed are just as varied as their tastes in food,” Fisher says. “A person may like Japanese food, but hate pizza. Some women want their nipples chewed on; others need you to be more delicate.” The women of today aren’t shy. “In the past, women didn’t get to sleep with enough men to know what they liked,” Fisher says. “But, now, women are becoming more demanding.”

SHE ACTS LIKE YOU

There’s a scene in Broadcast News in which William Hurt tells Holly Hunter that listening to her talk in his earpiece while he was on the air was “like great sex!” See if you get a similar buzz from your potential bed partner.

“The first thing to look for is mirroring of verbal behaviour and pace,” explains Dr  Michael Cunningham, a professor of social psychology at the University of Louisville in the US. “That means this: If her pace and her nonverbal behaviour match yours, her sexual behaviour – which is also nonverbal – will also likely match. If one person seems really slow-moving and the other seems fidgety, they’re going to have different sexual paces.

“If somebody says something and the other person goes on to another subject,” he adds, “they’re not tuning in very well. They probably won’t tune in during sex either.”

SHE KNOWS WHO IS SEAN CONNERY

“Young women often aren’t relaxed enough to have an orgasm,” Fisher says. Older women will tell you what they like. “They realise that if they have frequent orgasms, it’s better for the man in the long run.” At menopause, “levels of estrogen recede, unmasking the power of testosterone,” Fisher adds. “This allows women to be more assertive and demanding, and many of them become more interested in sex.”

SHE'S A GOOD KISSER

“The way you kiss says a lot about how you make love,” says Ava Cadell, PhD, a Los Angeles-based sexologist and author. “I call kissing ‘facial intercourse’. It’s not just  using the lips; it’s using the entire body. If she uses her hands on you, and presses her breasts into you, and moans and groans, she’s going to be a great lover.

“The best female lovers also create sexual anticipation. They start with baby kisses, and then maybe lick your top lip and suck your bottom lip. And as they’re doing that, they play with your hair, or put your hands on theirs. It’s sort of like a dance.”

SHE'S A GOOD DANCER

“So, if a chick is a good dancer, will she be, like, a dynamo in the sack?” Fisher didn’t flinch. “There is a certain amount of dance to copulation. And dancing is energetic, which suggests someone who’s in good shape,” she said. “But I think what’s really going on is that dancing indicates someone who’s social and  self-confident.”

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