6 Bedroom Habits Killing Your Sex Life

A partner's bad sex habits can be a major turn-off. This is one of the reasons why long-time couples often find their sex  lives dwindling. Bad sex habits could arise from misconceptions or sheer laziness. Are you guilty? Here are the worst sex habits that men have – and how to correct them. 

1. Forgetting Basic Hygiene
Bad breath, oily hair, soiled underwear thrown about and dirty toilets get women from “Go” to “No”. “Men have all these dirty little habits,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, the author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover. “And if women had the same faults, men wouldn’t want to come near us.” People have different ideas of cleanliness and hygiene. But you certainly will shower and clean your home if a VIP was coming, so why shouldn’t you clean up for your lover?
 
Fix It
Pop a mint if you consumed or put strong-smelling objects such as garlic, alcohol and cigarettes into your mouth earlier. Take a shower and change your clothes – especially underwear – because not all women appreciate “the scent of a man” (an alternative description for body odour). Keep your room and toilet clean, to keep it from looking and smelling like a sty.
Women don’t want to sleep with pigs.
 
2. Handling Flatulence
While flatulence may be a normal bodily reflex, close encounters of such in bed are far from sexy. Some men may find the release of noxious gases (complete with  surround sound) amusing, but women find it simply nauseating – although they may laugh it off or pretend not to have heard or smelled it. And, no, playing Dutch oven isn’t on most women’s list of kinky bedroom games.
 
Fix It
Whichever canal you plan on releasing gas from, never do it in her face. If necessary, excuse yourself and release the gas in another room. For minor releases through your mouth, turn away and close your mouth, then say excuse me after you’re done.
 
3. Pulling And Pushing
Men usually don’t use extreme force, but even the slightest pressure can be upsetting for some woman. Putting your hand where she doesn’t want it, pulling her hand or pushing her head downto your package can be distasteful or degrading. The use of force often results in jobs done half-heartedly or avoidance of future sexual contact.
 
Fix It
Imagine how great the sex would be if you waited for her to be ready to do everything with enthusiasm! Help her to imagine how both of you could feel by describing what you want to do – and what you want her to do for you. Be patient. “Make it into a teasing game,” says Jennifer Worick, author of Worst Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex. “Always touch her most sensitive parts last.” And not all women enjoy playful spanking. Do it only if she asks you to.
 
4.  Sticking Your Tongue In Her Ear
You frequently stick your tongue in her ear because, judging by how she squirms, she looks like she’s enjoying it. Or so you think. The ear is (a) a discreet spot, (b) a hole, or (c) has lots of folds. For these reasons, it has been wrongly defined by some as a major erogenous zone. And this has led many men to think that women’s ears are the fragrant soil of the virgin forests. Well, they couldn’t be farther from the truth.
 
Fix It
Tread lightly when approaching any area near the ear. Nibbling and kissing her lobes are fine, but stop there, says Sarah Miller, a UK-based sex author. Treating her ear like ice cream will probably lead to you getting an earful from her.
 
5. Asking Orgasm-Killing Questions
While communication is important, stopping to answer questions can interrupt arousal. “It’s distracting and adds unnecessary pressure,” says sexuality counsellor Beverly Whipple, PhD, co-author of The G Spot and Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality. “Unlike men, women can lose an orgasm almost in the midst of having one,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First and He Comes Next. Asking her to describe what she wants you to do, or whether she’s close to getting an orgasm, might be counter-productive. “Describing sexual wants and needs doesn’t come naturally to most people,” says Amber Madison, author of Hooking Up: a Girl’s All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality.
 
Fix It
If you need to, ask questions that require a yes/no  response – for example: “Are you comfortable?” or “Should I keep doing this?” – pay attention to non-verbal cues and go with the flow. Moans, arching of her back and moving her body towards you are signs of arousal and pleasure.
 
6. Cursing And Swearing
They may be used for expressing anger at the neighbour next door for playing the karaoke machine too loudly, or using it as a replacement for an exclamation mark, but some people are unaware that they swear in the middle of having sex, when the penis slips out or, worse, having orgasms. Cursing and swearing may be common out of bed,  but cursing, especially those that involve the female genitalia, is downright offensive to the woman.
 
Fix It
If you’re not aware of it, the only way to find out whether you swear in bed is to ask your partner. If you do, reduce the damage by replacing those words with less harmful alternatives.

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