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How can I bring the excitement back into our 4-year relationship?

For women, passion equals romance. The best way to bring back the romance is not through one-off whirlwind holidays, but by changing the way you interact every day so that you behave more like two people in love.

For example, start a romantic tradition. As you’re preparing to go to bed, take turns to recount memories of when you first began dating. Or reserve every Saturday night as “date night” and take turns to plan a surprise outing.

Keep things physical even if you’re not planning to go all the way. Greet and part not with a perfunctory peck, but a full-on liplock. Hold hands as you’re driving, riding the escalator and drifting off to sleep. With any luck, this out of-the-bedroom roleplaying will ignite sparks in the bedroom.